Why i am a feminist………

Why I am a feminist/humanist

My first encounter with feminism was at a “Breaking barriers empowering young women to participate in democratic politics” workshop organised by the Young Women African Leaders Movement in partnership with the British Council Movers and Shakers. The facilitator was Nemata Majeks-Walker, Founder and the first president of 50/50 Group of Sierra Leone a non-partisan organisation, advocating and campaigning for  increased political participation and equal representation of women in decision-making processes and initiatives at all levels in Sierra

At the workshop we sang a song with the words side by side, no longer men in front and the women at the back but women and men side by side. What we were simply advocating for is creating a political environment that allows at least 50% female participation by breaking barriers created by the predominantly patriarchal political environment. Though I was a participant at the workshop I did not understand what feminism was all about and propagated the stereotypes surrounding that identity. I believed in equality of women but was not convicted to advocate for it nor did I see the need.

Fast forward a couple of years later I was privileged to be part of the African Dream Leadership Forum. There were only two male participants surrounded by intelligent, innovative and inspirational young women leaders. Interactions with them opened up a new perspective of the untapped potential of young Zimbabwean and African women. I imagined how much impact they will have in our society if they were not to be discriminated on the basis of their gender. I then got into an interesting discussion with one critical thinker who is now a lawyer about the negative connotation surrounding the term feminism. She then asked me one simple question which concluded the whole argument and made me realise my ignorance. She asked if I thought women were equal and deserve equal opportunities. I hesitantly said yes and then she labelled me a feminist. At that moment I felt a bit insulted because of my perception of that identity and my association of it with women.  I then questioned my reaction and if it meant that I viewed women as inferior and used the term in a derogatory way. That was the beginning of a journey in trying to understand the privilege I have as a male and why there was the so called feminist movement.

Early this year I joined fellow health students and professionals from across the globe in Gulu, Northern Uganda. We spent a month looking beyond the biological basis of disease in a Social Medicine Course run by SocMed Global. I got to get an international perspective of women rights, gender equality and equity which cemented my belief that women deserved more. I realised how gender related discrimination and violence were risk factors to poor health outcomes and influenced health seeking behaviour of women. I then decided to reflect the impact of gender inequality in my life and community.

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As a brother I am a feminist because I believe my sisters are amazing intelligent women who deserve to realize their potential. I see great leaders in them and women of great influence. I believe most of them are even more superior than I am in intellect and the sky is the limit if we were to dismantle the barriers they face in our communities.

As an uncle and future parent I am a feminist because I want to help create a safe and secure environment for my nieces and future daughters. I do not want them to live in fear of being sexually harassed or abused. I want them to be able to express themselves and exercise their freedoms without being limited by their gender. I want them to compete with my nephews and sons in an environment where being of a female gender will not be considered as  a disadvantage.

As a health professional I am a feminist because I believe empowerment of women is essential in realizing a healthy and prosperous nation. If women are more informed and have power concerning their health especially reproductive health we will definitely see a decline in maternal mortality rates. I am firmly against child marriages because it is a form of social captivity and gender based abuse for the child and gross violation of their rights as children. Child marriages stem from a patriarchal belief system of viewing young girls as inferior and their sole purpose being to eventually be married and bear children.  Hence the need to change mind-sets and perception of women and pushing for gender equity that will help speed up their empowerment and help overcome the barriers they face.

As a male I am a feminist because in partnership with women, I have responsible in helping create an environment safe them. I should stand up to my fellow men and discourage sexism. This sounds extremely chauvinist and might get all knives out but the truth is we need to work together as man and women to create a generation which will end problems relating to gender discrimination. I am not a woman and will never fully empathize with them actually that’s almost impossible. I might know of their struggles but will not fully understand them because of the privilege I currently have as a male. I therefore am at risk of underplaying their struggles. Women know what is  ideal for them and the least I can do is be supportive instead of being a hindrance. According to my dictionary a Feminist is a person who supports the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes. I support Chimamanda Ngozie’s suggestion that We should all be feminist.

unexpected syphilis strikes humanity


Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) or sexually transmitted infection (STIs) are infections that may result in a disease affecting the genital system. They are mainly passed from one person to another during sexual intercourse or any contact between the genitals including those of an already infected person. The name STI is associated with infections and STD is associated with diseases. STI is often used because they are some organisms such as chlamydia that can infect a person without causing the actual disease thus STI. A person may not have the symptoms that shows the disease but still has an infection that still needs to be treated.

Basing on current understanding of syphilis, it can be called both STI and STD. It is a bacterial infection caused by Treponama pallidium. Morphologically, T.pallidium is spiral shaped and has ability to barrow through skin. It shows the symptoms of infection (thus disease) as the…

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Sistas, Sex and Politics

After a 30 minute drive away from Harare Central Business District, along Old Chitungwiza Road, the car finally slows down. The day is getting hot, and we are cramped in the car so that everyone from the office would get the chance to come along to today’s meeting at Hopley. The car stops, and as we are getting out of the vehicle we are met with familiar smiling faces, and warm hugs that are so very welcome, even in the blazing heat. The smiling faces belong to the facilitators of today’s meeting: Fortunate, Alice and Tracy. They are locals at the area, and as well as managing and executing the meetings, they also do the recruiting of participants. For every time we meet we get to know each other better, and it is with a growing admiration and fondness I regard our new friends. After the greetings, they lead the way to…

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The yet to be told story of HIV..

We have made progress in our journey with HIV and AIDS. It used to be an enemy we fought battles against .We managed to weaken HIV but not completely conquer it. It has become a part of our lives and still has some negative impact in our societies.  Anti-retro-viral drugs have changed everything for the better and HIV is no longer a death sentence and people can live their lives to the fullest.

The face of HIV has also changed in Africa. It’s no longer the image of a wasted hopeless victim but we now have survivors who are victors. However society still needs to address a lot of prejudices surrounding HIV and AIDS. Adverts on HIV still feature adult married people talking about living positively or discordant couples. This is a reality of HIV but just one side of the story.

What about the story of the rejected HIV positive young person regardless of how they got infected? How does a young man explain to his classmates why he could not get circumcised after they were motivated to go for circumcision as a group? Will the young girl who acquired HIV at birth have “normal” relationships, eventually marriage and children? How will the primary school child on a school trip explain to her friends why she has to take a pill at set times every day? I commend the progress we have made in our fight against stigma but HIV is still revolving around that taboo act we love doing but do not like talking about called sexual intercourse. As a result some infected adolescents are sometimes forced not to disclose their status because of stigma and the image of HIV being an immoral adult disease. We are circumcising young man and children for sexually related reasons and yet limit how much they have to know about sex and HIV by denying them access to comprehensive sex education, condoms and contraception.

Are people aware of a possibility to be in a relationship or marry a person of a different HIV status and still maintain your status? Full disclosure and access to information are steps towards making it possible. We should not stop preaching prevention of new infections but we should also look into integrating people living with HIV especially young people into our society. Let their voice be heard and troubles known. Let them share their dreams, hopes and fears. Let us do away with stereotypes and prejudices surrounding HIV and sexual intercourse. This means changing the perception or mind-set of the HIV positive as having brought it upon themselves.

A stitch in time saves nine

Puberty might be starting earlier than in the past. This has been attributed to lifestyles, exogenous hormones in our food. Entertainment is also becoming more sexually explicit. Our world is increasingly becoming interconnected with content crossing borders. A  Zimbabwean can now easily access American content. We are a sexually “conservative” country constantly blaming the West for polluting our moral values. The “West” seems to be more liberal though some would argue that they still face a lot barriers relating to sexual freedoms. We end up deliberately exposing ourselves to content that is not “culturally” “religiously” or “contextually” suitable for our conservative nature. This is the reality of the global village.  Internet is now on mobile devices and social networking allowing easy transmission and sharing of information.

This simply means not matter how much you might try to protect your child exposure to corrupt information is almost inevitable. Parental control on satellite TV and the internet are awesome measures to restrict or determine content which your child has access to. However your child is still part of society and as they grow older you have less control on what they are exposed to. They spend a lot of time at school or with friends. Another thing you do not have control over is puberty. When puberty strikes nature takes its course, they start becoming biologically sexually and reproductively mature. The raging hormones make them confused, inquisitive and curious. They start seeing the world around them differently. That’s when nurture chips in.

The fact remains that one way or the other your child will start realising that their genitalia have seemingly other functions besides urination. Suddenly their hearts start longing for a different form of friendships and companionship. They start whispering among themselves and searching for information to quench their curiosity. They pretend to be “innocent” around you because of your at times unrealistic expectations for them. They dare not talk about the person they have developed interest in or inquire about sex from you because of how the topic is treated as a taboo. They know being found out or raising the issue might trigger a tornado and or if they are lucky just be dismissed without any answers. On the other hand you might justify yourself by thinking that talking about sex will make them curious and want to experiment. Wake up and smell the coffee! You are doing your child or sibling a disservice. You are depriving them of life saving information.

They fill that gap with television programs they watch without your knowledge. Some even start watching porn without your knowledge. We have to appreciate that things are changing and the world is becoming complicated. If you had an innocent childhood protected from all these “social ills” you were lucky.

Why wait for our future leaders to be fed poison when we can intervene earlier. Start by mildly introducing the topic as early as possible. Children can be victims of sexual abuse so tell them where they should never allow anyone to touch them. Gradually teach them correct anatomy of their bodies which includes their genitalia. Pre-empt them of changes that will take place such that when she gets her first period or his first wet dream they will not be anxious and will easily approach you. Walk with them fully explaining the changes they will be going through and what else to expect. Start a healthy conversation about sex. Make sure they are comfortable to ask questions. Address misconceptions. Highlight consequences of uniformed sex done at the wrong time with the wrong person. They need to know that pregnancy and babies are as a result of sex and it’s something worth waiting for because of priorities like getting education. Allow an open relationship that makes you their diary confidante and best friend. That will require a lot of patience and self-control and doing away with prejudices. Telling them to stop dating is insufficient because they will just continue doing it in hiding. At times the rod is not the best option. It leaves a lot of questions unanswered, insecurities and definitely secretive behaviour. Talk to them about healthy dating and why you would prefer they do not date at whatever stage. However expect some resistance but do not do anything that will push them away because the next time the topic will be discussed it will be complicated by pregnancy or sexually transmitted illnesses.

They need to know about the different methods of contraception available and this information has to be age appropriate. If you think or suspect your teen is sexually active, as much as you should discourage the behaviour also teach them to be cautious. Ideally we want our children to remain innocent forever but it’s becoming more complicated in this era. Let us then protect them from consequences which might definitely derail their lives. Talk about condoms.  We have a lot of young people living with HIV and AIDS. This is not a bad thing at all and they are ordinary people we see day to day and interact with. Dating an age mate therefore doesn’t guarantee one is protected from HIV. Yes it does reduce the risk if compared to dating older people. Unfortunately teenagers date older people who can easily take advantage of them. Teaching children to protect themselves regardless of their HIV status protects them from reckless, uninformed decisions. This can help reduce new infections and teenage pregnancy. The sexual, reproductive education they grow up getting also helps them live positively if infected and becoming more accepting if they are not. Our fight against stigma has to start in junior school because they have friends and classmates who might have been born with HIV. It changes their perception of HIV and can help put an end to stigma. Openly talking about sex means young people will have access to accurate information. An uninformed adolescent is vulnerable. You should deliberately make an effort to know more about sexual reproductive health. As an adult it helps you have a healthier, more informed sex life and positively impact the younger generations.

Stigma is perpetuated by treating sex as a taboo. Therefore anything sexually related arouses judgemental reactions.  Sweeping discussions on sex and sexuality under the carpet compounds the problem. There is need for mind-sets shift. Distributing contraception to adolescents is a controversial topic. However we should promote easy access of condoms in public areas for example toilets, health centres, youth friendly corners, pharmacies and supermarkets etc. We should still continue emphasising the benefits of abstinence to adolescents and also inform them on ways to prevent unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections if they decide to indulge. They should freely access condoms and contraception when they need them because depriving them has more costly consequences. It will not stop them from having sex and they end up having unprotected sex. Providers of condoms and contraception should teach them on  how to correctly use which ever method they decide to use,  instead of giving a judgemental conversation and imposing their r moral beliefs on the client,. Equip them with more knowledge and phrase your advice on abstinence in a way that allows them to make informed decisions. Do not decide on their behalf. Religious groups should also find ways of contextualising sexual and reproductive education to their beliefs. However it’s important to make sure that in the process their youths are not deprived of the much needed information.

In conclusion let us demystify sex and talk about it more often. It’s not the role of the biology teacher only to explain sex and human body anatomy. It’s everyone’s responsibility more especially parents and guardians to make sure our future leaders are well informed. Pregnancy, abortions and sexually transmitted infections can be prevented by comprehensive sexual reproductive education relevant to every stage of development. Stigma and quality of life for those already living with HIV can be significantly being improved if we all demystify. Openly talk and be informed about such issues. Teenage pregnancy, Sexually Transmitted Infections and HIV are not the end of the world. Affected people need our support more than our judgements and stigma. How you react to them can either rack or positively influence a life. People regardless of age, gender, race, socio economic or health status, sexual orientation or religion should not be denied of sexual and reproductive health services. Everyone should have access to treatment and protection including emergency contraception and post exposure HIV prophylaxis when they need them. A stitch in time saves nine. Let us make an effort to change our attitude towards sexual intercourse.